Stop worrying about what others think ...
Posted: Tue, 29 Jan 2019 11:50
"Stop worrying about what others think. Stop overthinking things. Stop looking over your shoulder. Stop comparing yourself to others".
This was a quote that I posted on social media earlier this week that seemed to resonate with lots of people. Does this resonate with you too?
I'm sure that as you read this you're the type of person that respects other people's point of view – accepts the differences you see in others – a person that champions being different. So … if this quote does resonate with you – why is this so?
Why would you be so harsh with yourself, yet so lenient with others? I love the fact that we are all different in some way and that each of us is uniquely made.
I'm just getting ready to run a masterclass on the topic 'managing your energy levels' with a group of senior business women. Managing energy levels in the workplace is mostly about managing your stress levels. When you worry about the things that are out of your control – guess what? You're using a big chunk of your energy levels. Looking over your shoulder and worrying about what others think takes up time and energy and does more harm than good. It prevents you from being really 'present' and also overshadows your true and authentic nature. So, what can you do about it?
If you're feeling stressed, tired and drained a lot of the time then there is a need to bring more balance into your daily routines. Do you have a hobby? An activity that involves you being totally engrossed with almost an inability to think about work whilst doing it. For example – I run a gospel choir with my husband – it is virtually impossible for me to run a session and think about work at the same time.
What does this mean? It means that
(a) I'm totally engaged and immersed in what I'm doing
(b) I'm doing something that enables me to be energised and refreshed. In other words, I'm putting energy back into my body.
Try it! Do something that enables you to recoup the energy that you're spending every single day. Some suggestions might be gardening, going to the gym, cycling, running, walking – simply anything that you enjoy doing that allows you to switch out of the work routine.
As for comparing yourself with others …. Stop it! It's okay to be okay!
See you next time